Change is something I absolutely HATE but is necessary; we may have spent some time developing a routine and in the blink of an eye, someone comes in and tries to destroy it.
Somethings admittedly are beyond our control and maybe that’s what makes the situation worse.
It’s cool though because change is a process that we all go through, some of us take it hard, some of us simply find another way.
Today, I am going to teach you to journey on the alternative route. More specifically as it relates to pursuing your passion despite obstacles.
Let’s get into it.
Many of us have a dream in mind and a goal we are working so desperately to fulfill for various reasons. Maybe we hate our job, we have kids, got married, or just need a change.
The one thing we all have in common is that once we realize that we need to achieve this goal, we work fervently to get it done. Don’t we? When the first year hits in, you will realize that things are not as easy as we thought it would be. It’s not a rainbow path to the bucket of gold nor is it a simple walk along the red carpet. Things might even get harder when we realize that the people we expected to support and encourage us are belittling us.
Have you experienced any of this so far?
It sounds absolutely outrageous but for those of us who have experienced it can tell you that this is normally the case. Still don’t believe me? Look at what two of the world’s most successful people experienced:
Artist, producer, entrepreneur, and all-around game-changer Walt Disney was born on December 5, 1901 and was fired in 1919 from Kansas City Star because he “lacked imagination and had no good ideas.” Walt Disney is the most awarded individual in the history of the academy awards and was awarded the presidential medal of freedom and congressional medal of honor.
“All our dreams can come through if we have the courage to pursue them.” ~ Walt Disney
A 70 year old American actress known for her roles as The Witch in Into the Woods, Donna Sheridan in Mamma Mia! Here we go again, Miranda Priestly in The Devil Wears Prada and Brooke Reynolds in Still of the Night. She auditioned for a role in King Kong when she was 26 years old and the producer, Dino De Laurentiis Sr said “che brutta” which means how ugly. Meryl Streep is now the world’s most nominated Academy Awards actor.
“Put blinders onto those things that conspire to hold you back, especially the ones in your own head.” ~ Meryl Streep
Are you seeing a pattern so far? These people were brought down by people they entrusted with hope. The thing is, these people WILL let you down which can be a very hard pill to swallow.
I wasn’t disappointed by what I heard people saying about me despite how harsh and simply untrue some of it maybe, but it boiled down to one thing at the end of the day. I REALLY WANT TO HAVE MY OWN BUSINESS. That means that despite what Jack,Jill and every other irrelevant characters has to say, I will own my own and have my name shining so brightly they might get blind.
Sounds like a great plan, huh?
If you agree with me, I have developed a few simple tricks to help remind you why you are going so hard it would simply be impossible for you to go home:
- Anything is possible once you work hard for it. – No one is promised tomorrow, so what is the point of you worrying about what the haters got to say? Do you want to be in the position of having listened to what they said or be so faded of their lack of support that you don’t get back on the horse and keep riding? Do you want to look back five years from now, when they won’t even matter, and wonder , “What If?” Don’t let the perceptions from other people become your truth and ultimately your defeat.
- Life is way too short – Oh my god, can i stress this enough? Do you understand how short life is? You are here today at 12:00 and can be gone by 12:01 that is how serious this is. Do you want to spend your life pondering over these baseless and demeaning comments about you and your passion? Or do you want to stick to your convictions and keep pursuing your dream?
- Your dreams take precedence – Do you want to be forty years old and wonder why didn’t I kick start my dreams? Or would you rather sit on the beach with a pina colada watching your kids with a smile on your face because you know that your business is doing well? The second scenario will never be possible if you don’t start to think and act like your dream is priority number one. The love for what you do will always be important and no one will ever be able to take that from you unless you allow them.
- No one is obligated to support you – I was being mean to my colleague the other day and I wondered to myself what if they stopped supporting me because of my attitude? That was the moment in time I realized two things: One, I was madly in love with my craft and two, no one is obligated to support me. People support us because we make an impact in their lives; it is only human that we crave support and positive energy all the time but just think about all the successful people who are where they are now because they realized that no one is obligated to support them.
- We can’t please everyone – “I can’t tell you the key to success, but the key to failure is trying to please everyone.” ~ Ed Sheeran I feel like we forget for a second that we can’t please everyone and that is absolutely fine because we don’t need to. In a perfect world, we are surrounded by people who only support us and encourage us but in reality it is impossible to make everyone happy. Keep your focus on what you want and why.
The simple truth is everyone will not support you and that is fine, we need to keep our passion at the forefront of our minds and have people follow because they too are in love with our craft and not because they feel obliged to.